Sex talk today? Broken.
The devil plays games with language. Twists the knife. Turns good into bad. Bad into good. Until “purity” isn’t just distorted—it’s a weapon.
I was talking with author Dannah Gresh on Focus on the Family about this mess. Specifically, about how biblical clarity can help young women. Help them live with integrity. Heal from the damage.
Here is the deal: Scripture says physical intimacy matters because it points to God’s love. Jesus even used sex as a metaphor for heaven’s kingdom. In his parable, a groom agreed to a marriage pact. Then he left to build a house.
The bride waited. Kept her purity. Lit an oil lamp. When he came back? If the flame was still there, they married. The family cheered. The couple got physical. A week-long party started.
Sex isn’t random. It creates physical unity for couples who are already striving for spiritual unity.
Women’s brains are wired for this touch. Not just sex—hugs, cuddles too. A bonding chemical floods the system. Like emotional glue. You feel connected. Deeply.
Used right? It highlights the intimacy we should have with Jesus.
Used outside of commitment? It’s confusing. It breaks you.
Dannah and I dug into:
- What purity culture got right, and where it failed
- Ditching the shame of pre-marital mistakes
- How marriage mirrors God’s heart
- Lying narratives we need to reject
- Reflecting Jesus in our relationships
- Basic self-respect
- Talking honestly with partners
- Getting real support from family or disciples
Heads up. The episode isn’t graphic. But it’s heavy. Keep kids away. Listen later on Apple Podcasts. Or the free phone app. Or the radio. Your call.
Struggling with purity issues? You don’t have to carry it alone. Christian counselors are there to listen. Pray. Help you find hope.
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